Your Walk Down The Aisle
the time you attend your Wedding Rehearsal,
all the main planning for the ceremony
should be completed.
would be wise to prepare printed instructions
for the wedding party outlining each
person's individual responsibilities.
As you prepare these instructions, logistical
problems and forgotten items will come
to light. If you then deal with these
oversights, you will have fewer headaches
at the rehearsal. (Don't forget to save
these instructions for your wedding
At the Wedding Rehearsal, you will run
through the service as you have planned
it, and you will then see if any areas
still need to be tweaked.
a little thought beforehand, you can
assure that your walk down the aisle
goes without incident.
are a few things to think about:
Has the Groom made out a check for
Normally, the Best Man hands the
Officiant a sealed envelope with
his fee enclosed. The Groom must
provide this envelope to the Best
Have you arranged when to hand over
the rings to the Best Man and the
Maid of Honor so that they are prepared
before the ceremony?
1. Usually, the Best Man hands the
Bride's wedding ring to the Groom
during the ceremony.
2. Usually, the Maid or Matron of
Honor hands the Groom's wedding
ring to the Bride during the ceremony.
3. In a Jewish wedding, the Maid
of Honor also holds the Bride's
engagement ring during the ceremony.
items to turn over to your helpers
2. Marriage License.
CDs or Sheet Music.
Candle, other candles or Sand
5. Prayer Book.
7. Printed driving directions to
the reception location.
8. Jewish wedding: A white napkin,
glass (you can use a light bulb,)
kosher wine, goblets, talis
for the huppah, Ketubah, box of
1. Will you have a piano, organ,
choir, or someone playing CDs for
2. What music selections will you
3. You will need different tempos
for each part of the ceremony.
4. How many music selections will
you need? This will depend upon
How long you plan to allow for
seating the guests - usually
20 - 30 minutes.
many attendants will be walking
down the aisle.
may also want to have a receiving
line directly following the
ceremony and you will want music
to be played in the background.
Have you purchased the CDs or
purchased the sheet music for
the piano player?
6. Who is in charge of setting
up the music and deciding when
the music should start?
1. Will you have any readings?
2. If so, have you checked whether
your readers are prepared?
1. Do you want to include your own
2. Have you chosen and memorized
3. Have you made a copy that your
Maid of Honor can carry for you
in case your mind goes blank?
1. Do you want one?
2. Have you planned the timing for
3. Usually the mothers of the Bride
and Groom light candles. However,
there are many reasons for lighting
candles - from including children
in the ceremony of a second marriage
to remembering a lost parent or
grandparent. You have many options.
Explore them and decide what feels
comfortable for you.
1. Have you decided where the attendant
should sit and has a table and chair
2. When should the attendant close
3. Since the book is usually closed
just prior to the start of the ceremony,
have you arranged to save a seat
at the ceremony for the attendant?
These people have many responsibilities
- have you allocated assignments
The Ushers seat the guests, escort
the mothers of the bride and groom
to their seats, lay the aisle runner
in place and later pull it up again.
The Ushers also provide for an orderly
exit after the ceremony is over.
If necessary, the Ushers give directions
from the ceremony location to the
reception location. Have you provided
them with maps?
the Ushers are also the Groomsmen.
If so, you will need to work out
the logistics, so that, after the
seating is done and the runner has
been put in place, the Ushers can
take their places, as Groomsmen,
near to the Groom.
girl/Ring Bearer/Page Boy/Train-bearer
They carry a basket of petals or
carry the rings on a cushion. They
may walk behind the Bride carrying
the Bride's train.
1. Will they walk down just ahead
of you? Have they practiced? Have
you thought about what the Flower
Girl's reaction would be if the
petals were all dropped by the time
she got half way down the aisle?
Or what the Ring Bearer would do
if he dropped the pillow?
2. Decide where the mother or other
adult will be seated, usually in
an aisle seat, and explain the location
to the tot, so that he or she knows
how to duck out if confusion or
panic dictates an exit.
3. Assign someone to take them to
the bathroom about five minutes
before making their entrance.
4. Decide who will take charge of
the basket of petals or pillow until
just before the walk?
5. Do you really want the wedding
rings on the pillow? They could
get lost. Fake ones are a good option.
If you want the real ones on the
pillow, you need to secure them
firmly to the pillow in such a way
that they can be easily removed
6. If the children are too young
to stand quietly during the ceremony,
arrange for them to sit in a front
row during the ceremony. They can
join the wedding party again as
the recessional begins.
Will you have one? If so, will it
be directly after the ceremony or
before your guests enter the main
room for the reception.