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My sister is hosting a bridal shower. Should I give her a hostess gift?
Sure! A thank you gift is definitely great.
Is it acceptable to list where the bride is registered on the bridal shower invitation?
Although it is often done today, it is not considered proper etiquette to do so. I would suggest mentioning the registry to your guests when they telephone to RSVP. Many people find the registry information helpful. Any guests who dislike going by a registered list will just ignore the information you give them and select a gift of their own choosing.
Must I provide a bridal shower favor for every guest?
It is usual to give small gifts for the winners of the games played at a bridal shower. Whether you should give favors to every guest is up to you. They are expected in some circles and not in others. If you feel that your guests will expect favors, the most general favors to offer are flowers and candles.
The cost efficient way to provide flowers is to visit your local supermarket or plant supply store and buy a flat of annuals and some colored cellophane. Wrap each container in cellophane and tie with ribbon. This makes a cheerful display by each place setting. If you don’t have time for this, we suggest buying some colorful packets of plant seeds and placing one by each place setting.
What do we write on the bridal shower gift labels?
There is no rule. Some people put the name of the bride and the bridal shower date (Julie’s Shower, June 6, 2016) and others put the name of the bride and groom and the wedding date (Julie and John, June 27, 2016.)
Is there any good time to schedule a bridal shower?
It is usually timed to be close enough to the date of the wedding so that the excitement is already building, however not so close to the wedding date that it will disrupt the bride from last minute preparations. Bridal showers are usually scheduled for about 3 to 4 weeks before the wedding day.
Send out the invitations about three weeks prior to the shower. Assume that those not responding will attend – or make a follow-up telephone call to those that have not responded. This will avoid the embarrassment of preparing for too few people.
Can we ask the shower guests to give cash gifts?
You should not ask for gifts of money. You will offend your guests if you do this. Note that most people do not like others to know how much they have or have not spent on a gift. To many guests, the highlight of the shower is to see the gifts opened and to examine and admire them.
Today, the bride can register at a variety of stores other than department stores, from bedding to hardware. Encourage the bride to think about what she needs most and register for those items at the store of her choice. When guests telephone to RSVP and ask for gift suggestions, you can give out the registry information.
Is it proper to have a shower for someone who is getting married for the second time?
There is no rule against having a bridal shower for someone who is getting married for a second time. If you feel uncomfortable with calling the event a bridal shower, then you can specify “a tea in honor of Mary” or something of that sort. The get-together does not need to be fancy; it can be a gathering in someone’s home or a lunch or tea at a restaurant. The main thing is for the bride-to-be’s friends to celebrate her newfound happiness with her.
Should I hand-write thank you notes for bridal shower gifts?
Definitely! If a guest found the time to purchase and wrap a gift, then a personal thank you from the bride-to-be is the polite thing to do. It is definitely the obligation of the bride to write her own hand-written thank you notes to everyone who has given her a shower gift.
It is always helpful if the bridal shower hostess makes a copy of the invitation address list for the bride-to-be, so that the bride-to-be’s thank you notes can be addressed more efficiently.
It is customary at a shower for someone to be assigned the job of writing down a list of each gift and who gave it, as the bride-to-be opens her gifts. Since gift notes can get separated from the gift, this assures that the bride-to-be will thank the correct person for each gift. If the bride-to-be is given a gift list and an address list, then she is more likely to mail her thank you notes in a timely manner.
I cannot attend my friend’s bridal shower. Should I send my gift to her before the wedding, or should I bring it with me to the wedding?
Mail the gift ahead of time. The correct way to give a wedding gift is to send the gift to the bride’s home, not to bring it to the actual wedding. However, many people do bring gifts to the wedding or to the reception, and then someone has to take on the responsibility of transporting the gifts back to the new couple’s home.
Do I need to ask the groom’s aunts to the bridal shower? The aunts are close to the groom’s mother but the bride-to-be has only met them once?
You should not base the shower invitations on who the bride-to-be knows well. This is an opportunity for the bride to get to know the groom’s family. If you plan to invite some family members to the shower and not others, you will no doubt offend someone. Do not do anything to risk bad feelings before a wedding.
I would like to plan a shower for my friend. However, the wedding is out of town. Can I plan the shower in our hometown before we go to the wedding location?
If the bride is to be married away from her hometown, there is no reason why her friends should not make a shower for her in her hometown before she leaves. I would suggest discussing convenient timing with the bride-to-be and scheduling the shower accordingly.
Planning a shower in an unfamiliar location would not only be difficult but it would also require scheduling the event just prior to the wedding – when last minute wedding planning takes priority. Also, all the gifts would need to be carted to the wedding location and back again.
The bride-to-be is planning a very small wedding. Is it appropriate to invite people to the shower if they will not be invited to the wedding?
Usually it is not. You will generate hurt feelings if some people at the shower will be present at the wedding and others will not. There are exceptions. For instance when office associates plan a shower, they do not necessarily except to be invited to the wedding. If the wedding is such a small one that it is limited to the immediate family only, then only invite those who you know will understand this and not be offended. If in doubt, don’t invite.
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